just a thought.. - u remind me

"u remind me" by usher.. actually this song has always been floating in my mind heaps of times.. i enjoyed every melody it came out with.. i love this song.. you would have thought, initially, that it is a 'feel good' song because it has the "you remind me" of something.. *possibly good times?*.. but as you heard the chorus and checked out the lyrics, it turns out to be a sad song.. a memory of a painful experience.. and now i'm in a dilemma of whether i might, one day, identify myself with this song.. you see.. the song tells of a story about a boy who can't have a relationship with this girl because she reminds him of a past relationship that was hurtful.. he kinda struggle with the fact that this girl looks exactly like his past girl.. "See this girl, she sorta looks just like you/She even smiles just the way you do".. but of course, i'm not addressing the whole lyrics.. just parts that caught my attention and the lyrics that are PG rated.. no vulgar pls.. he3x.. well, i get to thinking.. how many guys out there that actually go into a sincere relationship and ended up being fooled by the girl..

i happen to know an Indonesian pop song that was sung by a band, led by a girl, saying "that does not mean i can't fool around".. are girls of this generation becoming more 'playful'? does that mean the guys have turned out to be harmless to an extend even becoming a victim of the girls? but then again i won't be fair by saying that all girls are the same while in reality there are majority of girls out there that really brought themselves up to be good.. we can't simply say that all girls are bad just because you happen to meet one that is not well behaved.. and this song actually do addressed this other girl that is innocent and are good, but because of the past experience he once had, he will struggle in order to build a healthy relationship.. and this is what the chorus say, "You remind me of a girl, that I once knew/See her face whenever I, I look at you/You won't believe all of the things she put me through/This is why I just can't get with you".. it's sad how the situation turns out to be.. i guess girls can also hurt guys ey..

i was talking with a fren of mine this evening.. she said she has this theory that "boy ought not cry for a girl".. especially after being dumped by one that is flirty.. i didn't kno how come i ended up putting this down.. well.. she said that she dislikes the fact that there are girls out there that can be playful towards a man's heart (or a boy's heart, in this case).. and therefore, the girl does not deserve having the boy to cry over her.. *i have to give credit to her.. her blog is here (as she conditioned)*.. i guess before jumping into anything serius one must really know well who he/she is relating with and what are they building towards.. so yeah.. like what ko Ari (Pst. Ari) once said "before married, open your eyes wide.. but after married, close your eyes a little".. hope i would one day be able to sing a new "you remind me" that have a positive lyrics and re-write the song to one that i would be glad to share.. is this lengthy enough? jroy out!! zzZzz