church - Aflame 8th anniversary

wuah.. it's been more than a week since i last posted here. Oh well, i guess most of us at Aflame Community Church got caught up in the preparation for the 8th anniversary. For more info just go to http://www.aflamecomchurch.org webpage. It will take place on the 28th Aug and 29th Aug of 2004. All the best for the practices, preparation, and keep up the chain prayer. i will update more soon.

as for the aflamers, buckle up for the count down till this Saturday (Aflame Spice Festival) and Sunday (8th anniversary celebration). Go for God!!

jroy theory - food always taste better when eat together

Sunday after the Aflame Community Church service, most of us guys went for lunch before hitting back to Cana House for practice and preparation for our 8th anniversary.. most of the people went to eat at Old Shanghai (me included).. we all went together with couple of cars (UWA gang went for tim sum at some restaurant).. actually after we reached there at Northbridge a few wanted to go to Saigon instead.. having split decisions we finally ended up eatting at the food court together.. there were 6 gals and 7 guys.. while some ordered from Japanese food stall other go for Indian cuisine.. but what amaze me was even though at first some intended to eat at Saigon, the food in Old Shanghai somehow tasted better..

this of course does not surprise me at all.. i have always believed that food (no matter how we oppose of it) will always taste much much better when taken together.. in my younger days, i always try to avoid eating fruits *actually still am*.. and so when after dinner me mom would have cut up the papaya nicely and place them before us (me, my sis, and anyone that happens to be there).. and somehow, that papaya will taste incredibly good.. i didn't even bother to count how many have i eaten!! i have a theory.. try present veggies, eg. brocolli or something *maybe tau-ge*.. and eat them together with ur family or frens during meal time or as a snack (yes.. snack).. trust me.. they will taste very very good.. it has always worked.. only recently i recall i was a guest at my fren's place and i ended up eating something just to encourage my fren to eat them.. and yes.. the fruit taste good..

at the end, it was a tiring day.. i thought of poor iZ cos he gotta practice all way thru (for skits and praise&worship).. i had to ta-pau (take away) for him.. food eaten alone couldn't compare to the one taken together.. but then again, "hungry is the best sauce for a meal".. and that would be another theory to tackle.. now i bid you, bon appetit..

society - where do all the angst and hatred come from?

the reason i postponed talking about other topic but bring this one up is because today as i was picking up my sis from school i came across two young caucasians that was out of control in their emotion.. basically i was driving down the road and at the 'give way' sign i decided to turn right.. they were coming from that direction but at a much faster speed than they should around build-up area.. seeing that i can make it i simply let my car slide.. but to my surprise the driver start sounding the horn and beeping loudly.. even after they already passed my car he stopped for a while and gave me the finger from the window.. and i thought, well, teenage driver that was just looking for trouble.. after my car was moving away from them i go, "at least i won't let them get to me (make me angry)".. however they did not let it go.. after sometime as i was waiting for the red light intersection, two blocks away, their car appear again.. this time they stopped next to mine.. i was just confused at what they really want.. he kept taunting me from his car and i try to not give him too much of my attention.. finally he throw an empty coke bottle at my car and then move his car forward.. at that time, i can see the lady driver in front of my car was observing me from her rearview mirror.. not knowing why these boys behave in such a manner..

i was just outraged at how the boy can behave in such a way.. he was on a 'P' plate by the way.. but it got me thinking.. why would he react in such an unhealthy manner towards me.. was it because of his peer influence? so that he would look good for his friend? was it because he have personal prejudices towards certain people? is he new to the manner of driving? well, i basically came up with the thought that it is because of excess anger that had been bottled up inside him.. could it be because he was treated in a harsh environment? poor neighbourhood? unable to be himself but have to be conformed to what other people think, just because that kind of behaviour is considered to be 'cool'.. i am sad for him.. at one point i was confused and angry but then i felt sad because he might not have a place for him to go to.. to get all the things out which has been clogging up inside and eating him up.. and that is the reason he unleashed his emotion and cannot control them towards people around him.. so, where do all the angst and hatred come from? they came from hurtful and broken emotions from time to time that has been bottled up and have now become stink within the person's heart and soul.. it has now started to creep and began to take over the mind..

i just hope i don't sound as one that are bitter or anything.. in fact i'm not.. i am concerned!! and just trying to figure out why people behave the way they do and what would be the best way to handle them.. the only best way any person can be restored fully in their heart, soul, and mind is by letting Jesus Christ to come into their life and allow the Holy Spirit to work within them.. spread the love, y'all..

If your sinful nature controls your mind, there is death.
But if the Holy Spirit controls your mind, there is life and peace.

- Romans 8:6 (NLT)

jroy theory - ppl go error after 10pm

i guess it is a bit like some faulty in a production but this one deals with human being.. u see, i have always observed that *well, mostly on gals more than guys* whenever it hits 10pm at night or later, people will have tendency to go error.. let me explain.. i wud be like talking with this person late at nite.. we have proper english and sentencing up until it hits 10pm.. i don't know why but it always takes place.. she will start talking stuff that are waaayyy out of proportion.. sometimes stuff that might even scare u.. i mean.. the real personality start to comes up, you will be invited to the scariest dungeon, and she will go on and on and on and on.. and the alcohol beverages haven't even been served yet *just to give you some idea*.. but hey.. i ended up being the one pointing the obvious, "i think it's already past 10pm.. i can understand.."

if that ever happens, i wud advise u to take heaps of precaution in the conversation.. try not to get in his/her way.. this also apply for those chatting on msn.. i don't chat that much nowadays because i know it can be very scary.. sometimes i feel sad for those who have to talk up until waaayyy late at night.. i feel for you.. i really do.. i hope there's something i can do to help but maybe if u learn to accept yourself you won't need to talk that much.. night is for sleeping time.. that is why there are morning and night.. i love you but just don't go crazy on me.. wan an (gdnite)..


....... i'll log off after this last chat....... zzZZzz

just a thought.. - weight watcher goes "you think i'm fat?"

i can't help but eat heaps the whole day yesterday.. it got me thinking.. but first of all just wanna make peace with all ppl out there that might find this offensive.. he3x.. oh well, i know this has always been a subject that is very touchy2.. regarding weights.. especially when it comes to the ladies.. but the thing is, for me even if i ate a lot, my weight doesn't change at all (or not much).. it has always been around ##.#kg.. well, i have to censor it cos otherwise it might be used against me.. ha5x.. u might say that i am very light.. get jealous all you want but hey, i have been blessed with this weight.. i guess it's because of the metabolisme or something like that.. anyway.. i brought up this issue because it never change with the reaction that you get from most girls.. i don't get it with why girls are so fussy about their weight.. i don't think a male bouncer would mind having his weight questioned, i don't think a sumo wrestler have problem with that, and i don't think baby Tiffany would mind as well (err.. not exactly sure when she reached her teens though)..

ha5x.. i always have this image in mind where if a couple will be going out for a formal party, should the wife ask "what do you think about this dress?".. basically the husband will be faced with a cornered situation (i.e. no answer will get him out of the sticky situation of her saying "you-think-i'm-fat-don't-you?").. i mean, if he looks at her and says "you look fine, honey"; she will go, "you think i'm fat?".. and if he avoid her eye contact and goes, "you look stunning"; she will go, "you think i'm fat?".. how about him rushing to car and before he could reached for the key she will go, "you think i'm fat?".. huahuahauahu.. i don't know man.. i was once in a situation like that (i'm not married yet though *for the record*).. well, she was planning to buy a dress and i thought i could impress this girl by saying "you don't have to worry what to buy because any dress will fit you well".. it was a fine remark, i was basically waiting for an appreciation reply, but to my surprise it backfired and i got the "you think i'm fat?" response.. i mean.. jeez.. however could a decent man avoid this touchy issue..

as a result i try to become a better man by avoiding directly talking about weight topic in front of the ladies.. and i experienced once where weight was being brought up during a conversation and i heroically come to the defense of one of the ladies.. you can say i got the respect and appreciation i desperately sought after.. he3x.. too bad not all blokes could walk their way around this topic without awakening the beast within that growls, "you think i'm fat?".. i think that's cos i'm special or something.. well, enough about me.. basically i just want to encourage all you normal ppl out there to enjoy and be content about the life you have.. think of all those that don't have and you will appreciate more of what you DO have.. and if that is not enough.. i hope the Body Mass Index will be enough to convince that you ARE just fine..

this i speak.. on behalf of all the blokes in the planet that have been traumatized by the ladies that continually cornered their men or any man on the street.. peace out!!

pictures - Eugene Tan and family

dad, Eugene Tan (left); and mom, Kezia Utami (right)


baby, Tiffany Tan (left); and the happy family - Tan family (right)

Recently we were blessed by a newcomer named Tiffany Tan in our Aflame Community Church fellowship.. what a bundle of joy with the arrival of baby daughter, Tiffany Tan, to the newly wed couple, Eugene and Kezia Tan.. best wishes and lots of hugs and kisses to the little one.. God bless ya heaps, jroy..

just a thought.. - u remind me

"u remind me" by usher.. actually this song has always been floating in my mind heaps of times.. i enjoyed every melody it came out with.. i love this song.. you would have thought, initially, that it is a 'feel good' song because it has the "you remind me" of something.. *possibly good times?*.. but as you heard the chorus and checked out the lyrics, it turns out to be a sad song.. a memory of a painful experience.. and now i'm in a dilemma of whether i might, one day, identify myself with this song.. you see.. the song tells of a story about a boy who can't have a relationship with this girl because she reminds him of a past relationship that was hurtful.. he kinda struggle with the fact that this girl looks exactly like his past girl.. "See this girl, she sorta looks just like you/She even smiles just the way you do".. but of course, i'm not addressing the whole lyrics.. just parts that caught my attention and the lyrics that are PG rated.. no vulgar pls.. he3x.. well, i get to thinking.. how many guys out there that actually go into a sincere relationship and ended up being fooled by the girl..

i happen to know an Indonesian pop song that was sung by a band, led by a girl, saying "that does not mean i can't fool around".. are girls of this generation becoming more 'playful'? does that mean the guys have turned out to be harmless to an extend even becoming a victim of the girls? but then again i won't be fair by saying that all girls are the same while in reality there are majority of girls out there that really brought themselves up to be good.. we can't simply say that all girls are bad just because you happen to meet one that is not well behaved.. and this song actually do addressed this other girl that is innocent and are good, but because of the past experience he once had, he will struggle in order to build a healthy relationship.. and this is what the chorus say, "You remind me of a girl, that I once knew/See her face whenever I, I look at you/You won't believe all of the things she put me through/This is why I just can't get with you".. it's sad how the situation turns out to be.. i guess girls can also hurt guys ey..

i was talking with a fren of mine this evening.. she said she has this theory that "boy ought not cry for a girl".. especially after being dumped by one that is flirty.. i didn't kno how come i ended up putting this down.. well.. she said that she dislikes the fact that there are girls out there that can be playful towards a man's heart (or a boy's heart, in this case).. and therefore, the girl does not deserve having the boy to cry over her.. *i have to give credit to her.. her blog is here (as she conditioned)*.. i guess before jumping into anything serius one must really know well who he/she is relating with and what are they building towards.. so yeah.. like what ko Ari (Pst. Ari) once said "before married, open your eyes wide.. but after married, close your eyes a little".. hope i would one day be able to sing a new "you remind me" that have a positive lyrics and re-write the song to one that i would be glad to share.. is this lengthy enough? jroy out!! zzZzz

edition - "just a thought.." & "jroy theory"

ok2.. so last night i had a looonnnggg chat on msn with Geraldine (aka. gg) about how this blog can be better.. well, she gave me a good suggestions and tips that i reckon i should give it a try.. i hope you readers will not be shocked of the changes i made in terms of my writing.. basically im not that much a writer and i struggle in the idea of self-learning so as to improve myself in anything related to 'educational-stuff' (if there is such a word) *unless there are areas that i am particularly interested in.. PLUS it only needs not that much an effort from me to learn.. :P.*..he3x.. i believe in such a thing call "if in order to learn or achieve something you can do it with a minimum effort, that is the 'best' way".. which of course contradict a lil' bit with the idea of hardworking.. don't get me wrong.. i personally strive to be a hard worker.. only my style is "always go for the, so-called, creative and thus require minimum effort to carry out".. hahahaha.. *i think this is called efficient*.. less is best.. and.. and.. i am always very sensitive about the end presentation of something.. i.e. make sure it looks professional, get the most out of your work, and so on.. so there you go.. some idea of this new changes..

however.. in order not to TOTALLY shock everyone.. i intend to put this 'new' way of writing under two new headings (on different occassions).. they are the "just a thought.." column - which hopefully could have and contain any topics that pops up in my head and, by the grace of God, i could list them down nicely.. and the "jroy theory" - the column that talks about my small 'belief-system' about things and the whole concept around us, which of course still needs some research and survey to strengthen them cos it is not an end in itself.. it is 'jroy theory' after all.. you can't expect a 23 year old boy like me to come up with a Nobel prize contribution.. c'mon.. give me a break..

so yeah.. at the moment.. there are heaps of things running in my mind now.. i just hope i could write them down in a way that you can understand.. with of course, first and foremost, i could understand.. so before i embark on this journey.. i would like to ask for your assistance and help.. cos down the line if i ever touch on any issue that could offend people or, in a way, cause harmful behaviour pls just inform me and let me know.. i have no such intention and i will try my utmost best to put down my thoughts nicely.. so yeah.. if i get every nickel for re-explaining myself i would be a millionaire by 40.. thanks for listening to jroyFm.. God bless..

personal - cleaning my room

my poor room going from bad.......... to worst.. :P.

gosh.. how many of you often clean your own room on a regular basis? i happen to be a bloke that wud really struggle in this field.. if there is a unit on 'cleaning room 101' i wud get a Pass or a Fail merit.. ha5x.. oh well.. initially i intended to sort all my files, folders, n items before settling in for the new semester.. it seems that i only brush up a lil' bit here and there and afterward leave the rest for tomorrow.. ho5x.. now my room gets worst and worst.. it looks like nothing more than "The Day After Tomorrow" just happened here.. huahuahuahuahua.. oh well, in my defense, our wall was being touched up at the moment and that is why most of my stuff are being chucked around.. just hope i cud get my room back soon or something..

but with all this unsettling feeling of not 'owning' a room gets me thinking and meditating about how Peter in the Bible describe us that our body is a mere tent and that we are a traveler in this continent called Earth.. Paul also encouraged us that we should always looks forward to our eternal Home.. there is always this longing somewhere in our heart.. well.. all i'm saying is.. for all my brothers and sisters, around the world, that have placed their faith and hope in Jesus Christ our Lord, "we are on our way HOME!!"

care group - Curtin (A-Gent)

hi all.. a lot of things to write.. i'll try to shorten them.. i only manage to log in today because my laptop was down again yesterday.. :(.

anyway.. on WEDNESDAY heaps of things happen!! first of all our Curtin Care Group are involved in the Guild day (that is guil'D' not guil'T'..he3x).. they set up the booth at 10am and was organised by Okky, the president of A-Gent, and the gang (Hans, vice president; Cindy, secretary; and Tirza, treasurer).. i manage to drop by at around 11.30am.. most of the guys helping were wearing orange *well, except AndrewC who just wore plain grey :P.* at around 12:30pm i went to meet up with my supervisor.. this semester my one-and-only unit is a coursework (i.e. doing project and no class or small assessments) and since i'm new to this actually i'm a bit uncomfortable but will be up for the challenge.. afterward i continue hanging around the A-Gent booth to give a hand 'til i go to pick up me lil' sis.. we all log off at around 2:30pm..

pic of the A-Gent involvement during Guild day.. *notice all the smiley faces :P.*

later on that night we have our intercesorry prayer.. it is "Wed nite prayer" after all.. and the prayer warriors that were there are 6 people for this wednesday.. led by auntie Evelin are Marini, Mia, Chris, Edo, n meself.. at first i was a bit hesitant and discourage by the number.. but as the sharing before prayer was done by auntieE and revealing of what is happening in the spiritual realm i get better perspective and our prayer turns out to be very solid and we had a wonderful time in God's presence..

q: what hinders us from getting up and pray? something to do with the spiritual realm? how do you overcome it?

care group - UWA 01 & 02

heya.. sorry for the late update on what's happening in my life *as though YOU would be interested to know ;P.*.. he3x.. j/k2.. so, today i went and visit the UWA care group.. i was a bit hesitant at first cos i gotta park and have to pay the ticket n stuff but hey, since i'm a man of my word (and thanks to Kia2 for updating me about their meeting place), i was encouraged to make it for the UWA care group fellowship.. yey!!

i must say.. UWA campus is really a nice place to visit.. what with the old architectured buildings and, like Andrew said, "you have got to see the peacock!!".. lol.. oh well.. too bad i haven't seen one yet.. so there i was.. 1pm sharp and eventually i get to meet all the UWA gangs (or referred to as "UWA crew" by Geraldine).. pics below was taken from UWA blog, simply bcos i thought this is a nice cool pic..

UWA crew: Ernest (Kia2), Hari, Hendra (Siung2), Andrew, MelT, Mello, Belinda, Geraldine, and Teresa

as for the sharing, the group was split into two.. initially i wanted to join Kia2's so as to listen to Mello's sharing but since my buddy-in-crime, Siung2, happen to be there and joining Kia2's, therefore i opted to hear out Andrew's group.. i had a great time and enjoyed the combined ice-breaker.. thanks for a wonderful time fellas.. btw, Geraldine and Teresa went missing.. ha5x.. i reckon you gals got class or something.. poor thing.. anyway, hope to catch up with you guys in action soon.. Gbua and "keep on keeping on for His kingdom!!"

q: everyone in a care group yet? please share any interesting story about your care group..